I'm not sure what you want readers to take away from this, but it sounds to me like you could use some help learning to communicate. Regardless of whether it contains the words "white man" or not, you should probably be able to explain any sentence you utter to another person. If you can't, I respectfully suggest that specific utterance would be better off unspoken.

In this case a simple followup of "you deserve more credit and I want you to feel able to advocate for yourself" would have cleared up the confusion and avoided a lot of trouble, and you wouldn't have had to invent a story-telling system in order to filter out people who believe in accountability.