Old people are often lonely for this reason. They spend all their life with one partner and they pass away or separate and they realise they have no friends or group to socialise with.
People are difficult to get to know but they say if you get to know someone who is good and not a bad person you immediately love them.
As a passing stranger reading your dilemma I also reject working until you die as a lifestyle choice. Everyone has the same 24 hours available to them. You don't have to accept the status quo if you don't want to. But you need to accept some risks. People have higher standards for others than for themselves. So getting to know people people put up walls of standards that they themselves don't abide.
Happy to talk tech spiritual stuff with you if you want someone to talk to.
> (...) Everyone has the same 24 hours available to them. You don't have to accept the status quo if you don't want to. But you need to accept some risks. (...)
That sounds like "let them eat cake"-level of advice.
Those who work long hours and navigate burnout borders often do so because it's extremely important for them to at least meet a bar that unblocks other life goals.
In some cases, not meeting the bar can result in losing a home, go bankrupt, or lose a partner/family.
Framing that as just a risk that someone needs to accept is irresponsible and naive advice. It's like telling someone in a sinking ship that not managing to hold onto a life raft is a risk that needs to be accepted, when to them it's the only acceptable option.
What I mean is that everyone has the same 24 hours available, if you want something to change you need to take a risk to change your circumstances. If you don't take a risk you cannot expect things to change.
Of course things could get worse if you take a risk. But that's why we have limited liability.
I am not framing their circumstances as something that people should just accept. I'm saying if they want something they should take a risk and try get it.
People are difficult to get to know but they say if you get to know someone who is good and not a bad person you immediately love them.
As a passing stranger reading your dilemma I also reject working until you die as a lifestyle choice. Everyone has the same 24 hours available to them. You don't have to accept the status quo if you don't want to. But you need to accept some risks. People have higher standards for others than for themselves. So getting to know people people put up walls of standards that they themselves don't abide.
Happy to talk tech spiritual stuff with you if you want someone to talk to.