Its all about your life project at the end.. if you are happier eating overprice avocado toasts in the Bay instead of having children then good for you. Im not even judging despitz the sarcasm
Raising a child takes a village. Parents desperately need the kid-free time offered by aunts, uncles, grandparents, friends, trusted neighbours et cetera.
Moving to a completely different city, away from all your established social networks is a good way to ensure you'll burn out from having to raise your children without any help.
So make local friends and trust your neighbors. Be part of the community. And periodically visit the extended family. We live a five-hour drive from family and it's the closest to them that we've ever been. This isn't ideal but it certainly works.
Parenting teaches that many things thought impossible are truly possible, and frequently not important as I thought.
It takes a village and there are support networks in surprising places.
Also, there’s time for planning. It’s not wise to have a baby and move across the world. But it is wise to look 5 years out and move to an area to develop friends.
Comically, big families provide cousins and family in more places to give more opportunities for relocating.
Instead of asking your parent commenter to change cities, how about change the housing rules in the bay area to something sane? So more housing can be built, within reason? I find it depressing that 95%+ of the population needs to adjust to the other 5% of the population because of NIMBY, racism, entitlement etc etc.
The problem is not housing rules, it's the concentration of companies in the same place that drives the concentration of talents which itself drives the concentration of companies...
From my point of view the only things that can solve this issue is remote working on a large scale.
One is much easier than the other. To be fair, OP didn’t use the “too busy dedicating my life to local government activism” excuse. IMO one way you vote for change is by controlling what you can directly control. If the difference between having kids or not means moving to a more affordable area, then those who really would rather have kids will move. This will have the largest impact to the one who moves out of the area, of course, but it also has an impact on both the old and new hometown. I’ve seen this first hand as many are migrating to my city in the wake of the pandemic. They’re finding a better lifestyle for themselves while house prices in my area have risen 25% and still rising.
I once accidentally took about 500mg (tested). Felt depressed for weeks. Everything felt wrong on my skin. It gave me an understanding of what it means to be depressed. Few weeks later I was fine again. But definitely a scary experience. I began to hallucinate parts of conversations. Then the muscles (?) In my ear started to feel really painful. Then I realised I had actually taken too much
Hey I had ear muscle issue after one trip too. It does come back occasionally (seems to weirdly correlate with eating Indian food (!) or big alcohol hangovers).
Was the feeling same as when you tightly shut your eyes? It's the Tensor Tympani muscle, but I'm not sure what could be causing it to spasm exactly.
Something like 10% of MDMA is converted to MDA on average (this varies heavily based on genetics) so it’s not super surprising. I totally agree it’s not talked about nearly enough though. I haven’t had visual hallucinations (assuming we’re talking actual hallucinations not “visuals” like tracers) but have definitely had auditory hallucinations where it sounded like people were talking just outside the car my friend and I were cuddling in.
Like I said we lab test all our stuff here in the Netherlands. Its actually free to do so. So this wasnt laced with anything. Go do some more research on mdma and hallucinating because you are clueless. Many people experience this
Well I don't distrust you.. it's just I have'n ever heard of it apart for some "minor audio hallucination". But if you say so I'll take your data point.
Even with pure MDMA a lot of the time 100mg - while an amazing time - isn’t really the “fun dose”. Ideal for me is 250 across a night (maybe 125 then 75 then 50) if it’s like a full on music festival. In a mellower context (camping or a house roll or something) I’d recommend one 100mg dose and no more though
It’s definitely theoretically possible but having been pretty involved in the scene I’ve only ever seen LSD, shrooms, and other classic psychs bring out psychosis/schizophrenia in people who were probably going to develop it anyway (or at least were pre disposed). This was around college age when schizophrenia usually emerges. In general they don’t seem to cause mental illness in people who weren’t already pre disposed. (Obviously this does not mean psychs should not be treated with enormous respect)
I’ve seen a lot of people get low-grade cognitive dysfunction from mdma abuse (neurotoxicity due to “doing it wrong” ie overheating/overdosing), and while not in the class of drugs we’ve been discussing I’ve seen xanax ruin more lives than any other drug by far
You really need to abuse for a super long time some lsd to be messed up. I know a wide bunch of people in the party scene who absolutely abuse MDMA but they dont have more mental illness than the avetage smoker
