Wow, this post hit just too close to me.
I came to same conclusion quite a while back (the author also mentions that we most probably always know this); BUT never able to get out of that mindset.
I think fixing boundary issues is a hard problem, but still solvable. Dealing with Your Things (or atleast the ones you think are yours), i.e stuff that you have marked as your boundary, seems much much harder to deal with.
My mind has argued, and won to some extent, the opposite, but within a boundary: if you are responsible, why not do it better, if you are not doing it better, what is the point of it all?
Maybe one of the fundamental differences between a socialist and a capitalist lies in their degree of optimism about human altruism.
Socialists tend to be optimistic and believe that humans have the capacity to care for one another and collectively contribute to societal well-being.
Capitalists may be more skeptical of human nature, leaning on the idea that self-interest drives societal progress. They often argue that individuals are most motivated to contribute when they stand to personally benefit.
The article does shed a good light on humans relationship to the society it leans on and is hopeful of the possibility of a human system that can rely on a army of collective-good workers.
May be some day we will see such a system that doesnt discount the inherent competitiveness and survival bias of a individual.
Above is just my experience on how to navigate this mostly. This is definitly not about how to do F2F better. That is whole other topic, but I myself find that as not that difficult. Online is 10x worse than F2F for me generally.
The question can be broken down as:
1. Why do you write?
> To collect my thoughts into a organized stream. So that I can forget the stream of thoughts and still have a place to recollect if needed.
2. Why write publically?
> Openness helps clean and calm the head further.
Better outside than inside...