Being a developer was not presented to me as a realistic option in my childhood either, mainly because most of the many schools I've attended did not have any sort of computer science curriculum until the senior year.
Nor did I have anyone in my circles interested enough in programming until I've already picked my major.
Does that mean I now qualify for some special victim treatment just like those women?
Let's be honest here. If you want your argument to mean something, it can't have anything to do with gender. If it does - then the whole basis of it just boils down to "let's give women more handouts"
There are plenty of outreach efforts in the US targeted at students who might not get exposed to coding in school. I guess I wouldn't consider them special victim treatment; after all, golf and tennis also have outreach efforts to communities that don't have golf and tennis in school. Is that special victim treatment? It is often framed as charity as well as a way to popularize the activity in question.
Should all attempts to expose people to coding cease? Or are they ok if we only target people like those currently in the industry, perpetuating the status quo of 2016 but not 1984?
I notice you ignore the "welcoming atmosphere" part of the parent.
Yes, because your childhood and socialization is the same as the countless women who were raised to think that their value is an extension of their sexuality or partner. You did not face the same sets of problems that women did. Presenting your "analagous" situation is entirely disingenuous.
If you want your argument to mean something, it can be related to gender. It can be related to a critical analysis of the way that our society treats and raises boys and girls and the implications that this has on their lives and livelihoods.
Nor did I have anyone in my circles interested enough in programming until I've already picked my major.
Does that mean I now qualify for some special victim treatment just like those women?
Let's be honest here. If you want your argument to mean something, it can't have anything to do with gender. If it does - then the whole basis of it just boils down to "let's give women more handouts"