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> Eh, you're assuming everyone feels the same way about everything.

I don't believe that's the case; I think you're just early on in the process arpa describes. For me, part of really coming to know my own feelings was understanding the feeling very separately from the circumstances that trigger it.

With that separation in hand, it was much easier to develop deeper empathy. I would perceive other people's emotions and then work on reverse-engineering their very different triggers and preferences. And, of course, reverse-engineering how I ended up with the particular triggers and preferences I had myself.

For anybody eager to pursue that route, the two things I recommend are a meditation practice and seeing a therapist.




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