Actually people don't understand that such kind of putting-the-finger-on-the wound talk is usually also the author taling to himself. I actually come from a rural background, and I often make the same mistakes: not educating myself before making a decision, hoping that someone else would solve my problems, falling for the cheater instead of the accepting the hard truth.
And in case that isn't clear: The second quote is me saying "no there is nothing to understand. Their needs are simple, well known, to all but themselves". And I also give reasons for that, e.g. that they don't try to educate themselves and that they hope other people come and solve their problems.
In that regard, using the internet we can also educate ourselves. All we need is some basic writing and reading skills. The rest is just putting in the effort to find the right ressources and people to learn and discuss with.
Sure it can be dangerous to believe you know what's best for others and force decisions upon them, but clearly what we have now isn't working either.
More than ever we desperately need more resources put into education. But that isn't going to happen.
I don't see an easy way out of this mess. It's something we've been building toward for a long time and it's incredibly saddening.