I think this might come down to individual preference. Personally, I find the whole US dining experience rather uncomfortable. Because I come from a country without a tipping culture (Australia), I'm never sure if I'm tipping way too much, or way too little. So my meal always comes with a nice side-order of "paranoia that I'm committing a social faux pas".
I also hate the constant 'how is your meal going sir?' check-in; I just want to eat in peace without some poor guy feeling he has to do the whole fake-buddy routine every 5 minutes to earn his tip. But there seems to be no polite way to say "Hey, no need to constantly check on me, or be creepily friendly. I'm going to tip you anyway". It just feels so contrived.
Maybe I just have poor social skills or something...
Haha. Funny to read this as I have similar feeling most of the time, but the reason is that I almost never tip. I know I might be considered an a-hole, but I just cannot justify paying additional 10-20% for the "how's your meal" bs every time I go out to eat (and I go out a lot). If somebody agrees to be paid below the living wage it's not really my business and I think it's up to the owner and his staff to make these things straight.
Last year I have also visited Australia for the first time with my wife and we absolutely loved the fact on the contrary to other Western countries you are never expected to tip in there. From what I understand waiters get their reasonable salaries, the food is quite expensive, but if you see 38$ in the menu, you know you are going to leave 38$ on the table. Nobody has to waste their brain cycles thinking about how to tip the dudes. We live in EU and find EU and US tipping culture a major pain in the a.
I also hate the constant 'how is your meal going sir?' check-in; I just want to eat in peace without some poor guy feeling he has to do the whole fake-buddy routine every 5 minutes to earn his tip. But there seems to be no polite way to say "Hey, no need to constantly check on me, or be creepily friendly. I'm going to tip you anyway". It just feels so contrived.
Maybe I just have poor social skills or something...