It was Al-Anon. The theory was that there were maladaptive communications patterns in the generations before me, as well as alcoholism (as a coping mechanism?). The result was a more effective locus of control over life, as captured by the phrase about serenity to accept what I cannot change / courage to change what I can change / wisdom to know the difference. There are two sets delineated in this: what I can change, and what I cannot. I can change my thoughts and actions. Nothing else. I didn’t know that, or wasn’t aware. Maladaptive communication patterns in families seem to revolve around a misguided but understandable attempt to protect oneself through control of others. If that makes sense? :)

I did it without a classical God btw. The steps say to use a God such as we understand one. I used a non-deistic definition. God is in our capacity for trust and intimacy and altruism as a species, perhaps? Hard to pin it down. It worked.