I don't know the details of "how memory works anymore", but I do know that on my Fedora 27 laptop, everything stays nice and snappy, with under 200mb swap used, as reported by the system monitor...
...until I hit 8 gb of ram (the amount installed on my machine). The second that happens, the entire OS grinds to a halt. It starts with 5-10 seconds to change focus, and can go as high as 5 minutes if I don't do something about it. My best option for dealing with it is usually opening a new console (Ctrl-Alt-F3) and killing Android studio or the gradle daemon (the most common culprits). If I'm able and patient enough to open system monitor at this point, I can see that my swap usage has increased dramatically.
Again, I can't speak to "how memory works", but I am absolutely the expert on how my computer performs, as described above.
I've had similar experiences. Often Firefox is what's eating all the RAM, and I'm viewing it with htop. I've had cases where the freeze is indefinite and I had to hold in the power button. Couldn't change to another TTY or even ssh into the machine. When people say SWAP isn't needed, I just get mad. I've delayed these halts a bit by having some SWAP available. If I ever get slowed mouse movement, I panic and quickly check RAM usage and determine what has to be killed or restarted. I don't really understand why people pretend this doesn't happen and that unused RAM is always wasted RAM.
> ...until I hit 8 gb of ram (the amount installed on my machine).
I'm assuming you mean 8GB of ram 'used', by some metric of 'used'. What tends to confuse the hell out of people is what 'used' means. It varies by how it's measured, what OS you are using and how that OS is configured. I haven't a clue how Fedora 27 is configured nor how you are determining 'used' RAM, so my comment may well not apply to your use case.
And frankly, it seems to me like the issue is the OS being unoptimized or apps being leaky on it, because my Windows 7 machine with worse specs almost never has such issues, under any kind of similar load (and exactly the same apps).
...until I hit 8 gb of ram (the amount installed on my machine). The second that happens, the entire OS grinds to a halt. It starts with 5-10 seconds to change focus, and can go as high as 5 minutes if I don't do something about it. My best option for dealing with it is usually opening a new console (Ctrl-Alt-F3) and killing Android studio or the gradle daemon (the most common culprits). If I'm able and patient enough to open system monitor at this point, I can see that my swap usage has increased dramatically.
Again, I can't speak to "how memory works", but I am absolutely the expert on how my computer performs, as described above.