> The message should be, "you need to learn how to control yourself."
For someone with ADHD/ADD some combination of therapy, diagnosis & medication may enable them to learn how to manage their interactions with the world better (or "control themselves", if you prefer).
In most cases medication isn't a "magic pill" that fixes everything but it may bring a person to a place where they are able to effectively use the same self-management/organizational techniques used by people who do not have ADHD/ADD.
You're probably going to have a Bad Time if you try to run a marathon with a broken leg--regardless of how much self-control one has.
For someone with ADHD/ADD some combination of therapy, diagnosis & medication may enable them to learn how to manage their interactions with the world better (or "control themselves", if you prefer).
In most cases medication isn't a "magic pill" that fixes everything but it may bring a person to a place where they are able to effectively use the same self-management/organizational techniques used by people who do not have ADHD/ADD.
You're probably going to have a Bad Time if you try to run a marathon with a broken leg--regardless of how much self-control one has.