Are you surprised? I'm not condoning violence but paternal uncertainty is pretty horrible. I split from my ex-wife due to her involvement with a past lover during our marriage and for years I wasn't sure about my youngest. It literally would eat away at me but I didn't want to test. Eventually, I did a DNA test and the test confirmed he is mine.
I could adopt children. I could become a stepdad. I could never raise a child that was born through my partner cheating on me. It's basically a partner saying "I want your resources but I don't want my kids to be like you".
Really glad the test came back positive. Sorry to hear about your ex.
I totally get last paragraph. If you venture into something it’s totally possible to love others’ children as your own. But to have it thrust upon you is horrid. You sacrifice not only your life - the money, the labor, the freedom, etc., but you inevitably sacrifice your ability to propagate. And that’s not an uncertainty any human should face. But of course women have 100% certainty a child is theirs (minus hospital switching schenanigans of course) so it’s really only an issue a man has to endure.
Guess this comment is a bit winding. I really don’t like to dwell on the subject I guess...
I could adopt children. I could become a stepdad. I could never raise a child that was born through my partner cheating on me. It's basically a partner saying "I want your resources but I don't want my kids to be like you".