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I used to try this with my manager when he would interrupt me. Sometimes we would go on talking over each other for a full 10 ish seconds. That's a really really long time for two people to talk over each other and not stop. So uncomfortable, but I found it so rude for him to talk over me and he did it so frequently that in the end I just refused to stop talking. I'm naturally shy and soft spoken, so it's not that I was going on too long! He never seemed to get the message, so I left. But I burned out at that company and have never been able to care about my job since. Now I hate everything about my job and can barely be bothered to touch the keyboard, that's what it has been like for the last 4 years.


Bad managers break people.


IDK if this will help, but I hope it will:

It sounds like you were forced into a fight with a manager over whether your opinions, ideas and thoughts were worth hearing - to him.

Although he had an official position, he was not acting with decent authority: so his judgement of your ideas has no force or truth, but is just his.

Your ideas, opinions and thoughts themselves were never at stake. They existed before that manager, and they existed after. They exist now.




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