I was at a school graduation yesterday for preschoolers (yes, we do that in these parts of the world!). Part of the speech of the guest of honour talked about raising kids. His advice was that while we are usually bombarded with messages of things to do, he said that the most important things are the stuff that we should avoid. We teach our kids to fear, for example. This he said does a lot more damages later in life - like anxiety disorder. Teaching kids dishonesty. He said that kids learn through our actions and speech. So, if the children learn that we, as adults, deal dishonestly with others then it becomes easier for them to also end acquiring such behaviours. Can't remember all the points though, now.