asian-american (49) here. Get over it. The world isnt fair. The world doesnt owe you anything. You may or may not be discriminated against, if you are, it is just another challenge. Be thankful you are not disabled, stupid, dirt poor, or abused. There are many challenges in life and they are all unfair.
Find happiness and learning even through disappointment and failure and you will have a fulfilling life. Life truly isnt about the destination, it is about the journey (success AND failure).
My cousin is an asian american activist and she sees everything through the lens of a victim, don't be a victim. I feel sad because she cant be thankful for what she has, she can only be resentful for what she is missing compared to white people.
My parents gave me the following lessons:
If you see a problem fix it. If you arent going to fix it, then there is no point to complain about it. Some things can't be fixed, move on.
Life is not fair, there is no value to you in being angry about it. There are a million ways life will treat you unfairly. That IS life.
Success <> happiness. True and everlasting happiness comes from within.
You might be discriminated against. Too bad. Life isnt fair
You might have to work twice as hard as a white person to get the same promotion. Do it. You still might not get the promotion. If you have to, leave and help their competitor to do better.
Someone might not want to rent to you because you are asian (not as much of a problem these days). Find someone that will and be the best renter possible. Pay your rent early, fix things that are broken, leave the place spotless when you leave.
There are actually many more, but Im sure you get the gist of it.
Imagine if this was written to another race besides white or asian. Why do you think this ok to say to a fellow asian? Do you not think it's ok to complain about social problems and simply ignoring them if you cannot fix them yourself is the solution? This stereotype you're pushing is the exact problem.
It is blatantly racist, and I believe it should change. But I also believe the "deal with it and work harder" mentality is one of the important reasons why Asians tend to be more successful. My mother always told me I had to work 10 times harder because I am Asian.
It is okay to complain, but remember that we can't fix all wrongs in the world. We don't have time to wait for society to change. We will and have always found a way to survive and thrive.
My parents grew up in the Vietnam war. My mother had to do her homework in the shelters while American planes were bombing her city. My dad comes from a poor village and lost several brothers in the draft. My grandfather his brother fought against the french colonialist.
Despite all this, they don't hold a grudge against the west, and they still look up to western societies. Being a victim forever is not the way for success and happiness, and you will only hurt yourself in the long run. Practice gratitude, keep your eyes open for opportunities and keep hustling.
Find happiness and learning even through disappointment and failure and you will have a fulfilling life. Life truly isnt about the destination, it is about the journey (success AND failure).
My cousin is an asian american activist and she sees everything through the lens of a victim, don't be a victim. I feel sad because she cant be thankful for what she has, she can only be resentful for what she is missing compared to white people.
My parents gave me the following lessons:
If you see a problem fix it. If you arent going to fix it, then there is no point to complain about it. Some things can't be fixed, move on.
Life is not fair, there is no value to you in being angry about it. There are a million ways life will treat you unfairly. That IS life.
Success <> happiness. True and everlasting happiness comes from within.
You might be discriminated against. Too bad. Life isnt fair
You might have to work twice as hard as a white person to get the same promotion. Do it. You still might not get the promotion. If you have to, leave and help their competitor to do better.
Someone might not want to rent to you because you are asian (not as much of a problem these days). Find someone that will and be the best renter possible. Pay your rent early, fix things that are broken, leave the place spotless when you leave.
There are actually many more, but Im sure you get the gist of it.