If you found some strategy that works for you, great. But be wary of offering this a general solution.
Specifically for your post I know several persons who start to argue with their partner with the intention of getting an emotional response. And when the other person tries not to argue they just escalate to heavier stuff.
Also, sometimes arguments ARE personal. The reason for the argument is just pretext and you partner really can't stand you any more. In which case IMHO you should get out, not look for strategies to have healthy arguments.
To keep it short there are a lot of particular situations and no general solutions to couple problems.
Every marriage is a universe, mundane interactions creating supernovae, spectacular histories eroded into dust, a state of existence with billions of nodes.
Specifically for your post I know several persons who start to argue with their partner with the intention of getting an emotional response. And when the other person tries not to argue they just escalate to heavier stuff.
Also, sometimes arguments ARE personal. The reason for the argument is just pretext and you partner really can't stand you any more. In which case IMHO you should get out, not look for strategies to have healthy arguments.
To keep it short there are a lot of particular situations and no general solutions to couple problems.