I don't think meanings are really being twisted it's just colloquial discourse with a smidge of rhetoric. If inaction leads to 'the opposition' gaining an advantage it's easy to see why people might see that as defacto support and describe it as such even if that support is quite passive. I can also appreciate you don't enjoy being characterised this way and can definitely see causing that discomfort as being part of the point.
Well a half-truth is half true, but then of course it's also half false.
I've been thinking politics is increasingly just people lying about each other. Someone's behavior can be over-simplified and then pattern-matched to be a tiny bit like that of a literal socialist/racist/whatever. So you "round up" and throw the worst possible charge at them which can fit your evidence, intentionally creating what is almost certainly a false positive due to a terrible classification process. The lie (i.e. the degree to which their statement was rounded up beyond the evidence they have) is the part that damages the target. So people make it as big as possible. The worst possible names are always immediately diluted by overuse.
Same thing going on here. Not helping is partially like helping the other side, so stop thinking there and start rounding off information to make a lie that can hart them.
