> but we came to the conclusion that we are utterly incompatible and cooled off the romantic part completely
> I hoped things would turn around
Tell your wife that.
I feel that I am also incompatible with my wife on an intellectual level, but I can manage many point aspects of our relationship.
One (very) good aspect of our relationship was sex. This has taken a downturn recently and somehow, either because my wife was implying it or some social expectation, I was left with the impression that somehow I was a pig that only wants sex.
A great insight came from a female therapist who told me that sex is also a way to communicate and regulate/re-establish relationships. I shared this insight with my wife who also found it very true.
I'm sure its not just the sex, but touch as well.
There is this modern myth that spouses should be perfect matches and its sort of all or nothing -- this is very wrong and damaging.
> I hoped things would turn around
Tell your wife that.
I feel that I am also incompatible with my wife on an intellectual level, but I can manage many point aspects of our relationship.
One (very) good aspect of our relationship was sex. This has taken a downturn recently and somehow, either because my wife was implying it or some social expectation, I was left with the impression that somehow I was a pig that only wants sex.
A great insight came from a female therapist who told me that sex is also a way to communicate and regulate/re-establish relationships. I shared this insight with my wife who also found it very true.
I'm sure its not just the sex, but touch as well.
There is this modern myth that spouses should be perfect matches and its sort of all or nothing -- this is very wrong and damaging.