Genuine question, have you ever recovered from addiction yourself?
Because that phrasing is a bit odd, IMO.
No-one chooses to become dependent, and there's a lot of optimism bias/hubris when people start dabbling in addictive substances - I won't get addicted like _those_ people, I'm different...
But the hard bit, as you've noted, is making the choice to end your dependence. The choice to face whatever in life your vice of choice was numbing you to, to face it naked and vulnerable.
...that takes a lot of guts. And a lot of repeated attempts.
And you're right about the need for intrinsic instead of external motivation.
Because that phrasing is a bit odd, IMO.
No-one chooses to become dependent, and there's a lot of optimism bias/hubris when people start dabbling in addictive substances - I won't get addicted like _those_ people, I'm different...
But the hard bit, as you've noted, is making the choice to end your dependence. The choice to face whatever in life your vice of choice was numbing you to, to face it naked and vulnerable.
...that takes a lot of guts. And a lot of repeated attempts.
And you're right about the need for intrinsic instead of external motivation.