Well then, can you at least care if she played all of her hands perfectly and won "in spirit"?

And I think its safe to say that when a women is playing against a misogynic douche like this guy seems to be in spades no less, that she actually does want to take as much money from him and crush his ego.

They seem to have internalized the major lesson that "curiosity is everything," and (if the duel has happened) by not mentioning if she won is ignoring the lesson that "losing is a part of playing."

no, "losing is part of the fun". i learned that from nethack.