I know. And its not like I'm a monster, obviously I'll try and select the best elder home that matches the amount of money they have plus what I can afford.

However, and this is what I was trying to humorously get through to them, I will not compromise the life my wife and I have built and worked towards to arrange care for them. Call me callous, call me cruel, but my wife and I are working towards something for ourselves. We're making our future and so should they.