I think there is inherent tension in accommodating both people who need emotional understanding and people who have a physically hard time providing it.

I’m not sure it can be or should be resolved. My friends and I are mega nerds and high functioning ADHD. These are the people who I like to build things with. It seems as if we’ve accidentally set up a separatist enclave and It works for us. I think people should play to their strengths to make the most out of their individual situations.