You're skipping over the power dynamics- the brides are often very poor and dependent on spouse for financial support, the lack of support network (bride leaves family & friends thousands of miles away),as well as the precarious visa situation (real or perceived). Other than that, it's just like internet dating, like you said.
So what are you going to do? Ban these brides from seeking a husband abroad? What is the point of complaining about mail order brides?
You can educate them on all these things (many of these brides surely already know this) and yet many would still choose on their free volition to proceed ahead.
