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I understand kids can be a big distraction during the work day, but isn’t a good thing to have more time with them after work, without the hour lost to the commute? Isn’t it desirable to be nearby during their formative years?


No. On the train ride home I sleep, because without it I am a literal zombie and one could make the argument that I am a worse parent.

As is typical, another drive-by HN commenter will now say I should plan my day better, but without knowing my day, how can one judge?


I don’t know anything about you, nor am I saying anything about you. I am simply speculating that parents would seek to maximize time with their children, having seen my share of poor WLB that keep parents at the office and away from their children.


Yes, I know. I'm just being rather cynical at the moment.

Given I'm at 50% work capacity right now, I actually do spend many hours of most days of the week with my children.

I'm not saying there's a recommended maximum of time to spend (24 hours a day seems to be the ideal number recommended by mommy blogs), but after a certain point, I am out of energy to thoughtfully and meaningfully engage with my children.

It really puts into perspective the work childhood educators do on a daily basis, actually.


That’s fair. Perhaps there’s a tendency to lionize the preindustrial era, paleo parenting, that emphasizes maximum amount of time spent.




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