Not telling the entire truth during the very last phase of employment, the exit interview, is but a drip in a bucket of lies that is called employment.
You lied to get in. By emphasizing your strengths and hiding your weaknesses. The employer did the same thing.
You lie constantly about the work or its conditions being fine, as complaining about it is kind of a taboo. You lie to your peers and superiors all the time when they do or say things you disagree with, especially when the cost of conflict is too high.
You lie about the company drink being so much fun, whilst you really don't want to go. You lie about how much effort that task really costs, as you want to build in some security. You lie about how much time you're not really working.
You lie about being a well behaved human being whilst the minute you arrive home, you burp, fart and swear all over the place.
...yet you won't at your mother-in-law.
Conclusion: any human relation that is involuntary (you do not directly pick your manager, colleagues or mother-in-law) is diplomatic, which is a fancy word for not genuine. You keep up appearances and tell people what they want to hear, because the downside of the truth is too large.
So silence or lying is fine. Unless some massive humanitarian thing is at stake based on your input, which I figure to be rare. Alternatively, one can learn how to criticize in a non-damaging way.
> You lied to get in. By emphasizing your strengths and hiding your weaknesses. The employer did the same thing.
One of the most powerful tools I use when interviewing senior candidates is being brutally honest about the company's weaknesses. Implicit in the act of hiring is the reality that you have a problem you need an employee to solve for you. Pretending those problems don't exist is bizarre.
That sounds wonderful, I'm sure in such an open and honest dialogue, a candidate would also be more comfortable to admit a weakness.
Other than anxiously hiding weaknesses, the other bizarre thing in business is the idea that any and all weaknesses must be addressed.
To use the sports analogy: one can conclude that the star attack player is terrible at defense, but it really makes zero sense to invest a lot in defensive skills.
Not telling the entire truth during the very last phase of employment, the exit interview, is but a drip in a bucket of lies that is called employment.
You lied to get in. By emphasizing your strengths and hiding your weaknesses. The employer did the same thing.
You lie constantly about the work or its conditions being fine, as complaining about it is kind of a taboo. You lie to your peers and superiors all the time when they do or say things you disagree with, especially when the cost of conflict is too high.
You lie about the company drink being so much fun, whilst you really don't want to go. You lie about how much effort that task really costs, as you want to build in some security. You lie about how much time you're not really working.
You lie about being a well behaved human being whilst the minute you arrive home, you burp, fart and swear all over the place.
...yet you won't at your mother-in-law.
Conclusion: any human relation that is involuntary (you do not directly pick your manager, colleagues or mother-in-law) is diplomatic, which is a fancy word for not genuine. You keep up appearances and tell people what they want to hear, because the downside of the truth is too large.
So silence or lying is fine. Unless some massive humanitarian thing is at stake based on your input, which I figure to be rare. Alternatively, one can learn how to criticize in a non-damaging way.