I'm curious to know whether OP has experienced full on addiction to substances, gambling or sex. Because what he's describing does not seem to be any of those things, more about complaints that Youtube's recommendation algorithm is causing him to stay on that platform for hours. I don't know what other "pleasures' he is alluding to but I could infer here and say OP is male and he is probably referring to internet pornography.
All of these things could very well be what you end up doing but its really up to the individual to make the choices and change. You can't really do this reading an article like this nor can you find any solace by identifying others with your problem because it quickly becomes Wounded Club.
Instead of growing wiser, you stay wounded, thinking there is something wrong with you and you just end up like OP, watching youtube for hours on end, reading hackernews/reddit comments. If this is something you like to change then you need to take action. Without action all the advice in the world will do you squat.
Unfortunately, as of late, its become fashionable and quite profitable to humblebrag about non-issues. Do you really think that if OP's behavior is possible if their life depended on it? I think not.
One is too lazy to make a change then who's at fault? You can throw whatever 4 letter medical term and write entire books on it. It won't matter. If it is to be then its up to me.
You're largely right, but I think you're underestimating the cognitive deficits that come with ADHD, particularly executive function.
The key to breaking through mental barriers as an ADHD-sufferer is usually not more will-power or less laziness, though one must at least want to change. The key is externalization -- that is, building external cues, props, and guardrails into one's life to help one stay on task in the moment - whether that means doing work or resting. We have trouble doing both proportionately.
Some people say they've had great success taking time every Sunday evening to review the past week and make adjustments -- whether that be putting a post-it note on the computer, installing a browser extension, setting a series of reminders, or any number of innovative ideas. Whatever helps you externalize the decisions you'll need to make in the moment.
I didn't mean to take a swipe at ADHD but point out that dwelling on problems isn't going change things. I'm glad you laid out actually a really good solution.
Curious to know where you got this strategy from, think its a great!
Your critique of this "Wounded Club" mentality is well placed and well taken but man this is like the least sympathetic response possible.
Yes, we should take responsibility for improving our lives, especially in the face of clear signals that a change is needed. But, did it occur to you that this post was indeed OP taking responsibility for their suffering and a first step towards improvement?
It takes a significant measure of courage and vulnerability to publish this confession OP has written. We can be pedantic about whether or not OP is clinically addicted to anything, but I see this post as a positive step in the same direction of healing/improvement you emphasized.
All of these things could very well be what you end up doing but its really up to the individual to make the choices and change. You can't really do this reading an article like this nor can you find any solace by identifying others with your problem because it quickly becomes Wounded Club.
Instead of growing wiser, you stay wounded, thinking there is something wrong with you and you just end up like OP, watching youtube for hours on end, reading hackernews/reddit comments. If this is something you like to change then you need to take action. Without action all the advice in the world will do you squat.
Unfortunately, as of late, its become fashionable and quite profitable to humblebrag about non-issues. Do you really think that if OP's behavior is possible if their life depended on it? I think not.
One is too lazy to make a change then who's at fault? You can throw whatever 4 letter medical term and write entire books on it. It won't matter. If it is to be then its up to me.