I had a kid to look after (who was also suffering) who had to get up, go to school (most days he was able to -- the ritual helped). I had pets to feed, dog needed walks. I couldn't just lie in bed and justifiably feel miserable for myself. Friends would drag me out, inviting me to things. Kid had events that required showing up.
And slowly, and eventually, I recovered to some degree.
Without an external forcing function though I don't really understand how ppl in such situations don't just fade away. I have noticed some people replace grief with anger. I wonder if that's really better; I'd imagine it would be even more corrosive.
In one of his novels (SiaSL?) Heinlein had a character follow a doctrine of "I'll get over this eventually, so why not now?" That is absurd.
I had a kid to look after (who was also suffering) who had to get up, go to school (most days he was able to -- the ritual helped). I had pets to feed, dog needed walks. I couldn't just lie in bed and justifiably feel miserable for myself. Friends would drag me out, inviting me to things. Kid had events that required showing up.
And slowly, and eventually, I recovered to some degree.
Without an external forcing function though I don't really understand how ppl in such situations don't just fade away. I have noticed some people replace grief with anger. I wonder if that's really better; I'd imagine it would be even more corrosive.
In one of his novels (SiaSL?) Heinlein had a character follow a doctrine of "I'll get over this eventually, so why not now?" That is absurd.