Agreed. It's like saying "All families are fucked up." No, actually, I knew several people who had good families that generally supported each other and had mostly healthy interactions. The kids would sometimes be kids and do something shitty, but the parents handled it in a reasonable way and taught them how to handle their negative emotions. My family was not like that. Everyone wanted all the attention all the time (including my parents). It was fucked up. Some of my friends families were not fucked up. In some cases, even a single member of the family was fucked up, but the rest of the family wasn't. I think it's the same with jobs, personally.
I’m gonna play devil’s advocate here and suggest that you probably just didn’t know of the skeletons hidden in the closet. I came from one of those good families where things were handled reasonably and I was taught to deal with negative emotions and my mother was a saint and all of that is true; but my family is still fucked up, we still have our skeletons like everyone else I’ve ever met, and I’m still fucked up in my own way from some of it.
After typing this all out, I’m wondering if “fucked up” is not just a vernacular for “experienced”.
Thanks for pointing this out. I did fall for the “all families are messed up” meme, but it seems obvious now that there’s a continuum, some really bad, some really good, a lot in the middle.
