I've experienced this as well. Any disagreement always comes down to "you just haven't used it enough". I let myself take that gaslighting for years before I decided to just not go to the Rust servers any more.
And then when you question any of the classic Rust axioms (such as safety or speed being only desirable rather than an absolute commandment) a lot of them tend to get rather hostile. It's not a pleasant crowd if you don't think 100% like they do.
Sorry to hear that. I certainly don't think Rust is ideal for every use case. And it is definitely hard to learn. I think people get a bit too zealous promoting it, simply because it has solved a lot of painful problems that many of us have battled with for decades in C++/C land.
And then when you question any of the classic Rust axioms (such as safety or speed being only desirable rather than an absolute commandment) a lot of them tend to get rather hostile. It's not a pleasant crowd if you don't think 100% like they do.