:Not advice, but many questions and some sharing my experience:
Feel free to answer or not as you like.
> I'm old(er) mid-40's
I was in my early 40s when I found a lovely mate, married, and reproduced.
> Hookup culture is de rigueur
What makes you say that? What geographic region is that? Is that just the kids or those in your demographic?
> Where I'm at, there isn't a context to meet people
Are you in a place without personal ads?
> I do volunteering but that also doesn't go anywhere.
Is that volunteering at the same place or different ones? What kind of volunteering?
> I'd like to have a family and kids,
Do you want to make your own kids? Are you willing to be a step parent?
> but an inability to find and make friends precludes that.
That's not my experience. There's popular advice that one should marry one's friend. But in my experience one can just look for a marriage partner and leap frog that nonsense.
> The thought of getting old alone
Ah, so essentially human, thank you for sharing. I too have that at my core.
Feel free to answer or not as you like.
> I'm old(er) mid-40's
I was in my early 40s when I found a lovely mate, married, and reproduced.
> Hookup culture is de rigueur
What makes you say that? What geographic region is that? Is that just the kids or those in your demographic?
> Where I'm at, there isn't a context to meet people
Are you in a place without personal ads?
> I do volunteering but that also doesn't go anywhere.
Is that volunteering at the same place or different ones? What kind of volunteering?
> I'd like to have a family and kids,
Do you want to make your own kids? Are you willing to be a step parent?
> but an inability to find and make friends precludes that.
That's not my experience. There's popular advice that one should marry one's friend. But in my experience one can just look for a marriage partner and leap frog that nonsense.
> The thought of getting old alone
Ah, so essentially human, thank you for sharing. I too have that at my core.