You both have a point. For my own career I found the advice of Oliver Burkeman helpful, who put it in a very apt and actionable sentence:

> When stumped by a life choice, choose “enlargement” over happiness.

The good part is that there‘s still a lot of jobs out there who both enlarge you and make good money. They‘re just harder to find.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/sep/04/oliver-...