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I had none of that anxiety when my mom had a stroke last year. She survived but lost a lot of her capacity to speak and will to live. It’s been devastating but I’ve had a chance to spend time with her and tell her things I never thought I needed to say.

If I had to give some advice, I would say the most important thing to do now is to make sure that they are prepared for the administrative side of major health events and death. Power of attorney, wills, passwords, keys, etc. Having to push through a bunch of paperwork while grieving was a really tough experience.

I would also recommend starting to think about it happening now so you can make good choices about how you spend your time. If you’re actively avoiding the subject in your head then it will be a much bigger hit when it inevitably happens.

Grief and loss is universal but also very personal. It’s very hard to go through but you grow a lot, personally, if you let it happen. I wrote about my experience with my mom’s stroke below. If it’s not too heavy, there might be something helpful in there for you.

https://www.joshcanhelp.com/stroke/



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