I don’t get what you’re talking about.

He's talking about how some "alpha/sigma" male types fear that women are after their money and worry about that (that's what I understand the grandparent to mean by "mercantile fears"), but (surprisingly to him) they don't fear that they will affect their psyche/personality.

A paradox which I don't think exists in the real world, as these types, absolutely do fear women will do that (e.g. they fear that women would effeminate them, or make them docile, or p...whip them, and so on).

Paradoxically, having relations with women will not effiminate one (etc) any more than NOT having these relations would.

For all what it is worth, incel community is strikingly peculiar in comparison to other males.

Truth is that we do really need each other.

You start dating someone, you become another person with different customs and passions. The more you invest in relation, the more is the difference, unless you had exactly the same prior background.

Yes, that is a good thing.

This is literally how all social relationships work, including non-romantic ones. Mimicry is the basis of how social groups are formed.

You're literally participating in it (whether you know it or not) by communicating with others, period.

This is an instance where the statement "if you think you think outside of the box, you're trapped in one" applies.

An embarrassment of riches y’all