it is far too normal to denigrate any man's lack of romantic success with a woman, to the point that its a fairly kneejerk response and leads men to only talk about their pursuits of women and the "success". which usually manifests as something uncollaborative with the women involved.

if the statistics are what they say, the reality has enough men that have opted out of that game entirely, in conjunction with everyone else that has moderate results. so that's enough of a groundswell to normalize talking about a lack of romantic collaboration with women and drown out the detractors.