I think the disabling features of a used car has some nuances.
1) If tesla took possession of the used car and then sold it to you, I think they can disable features.
2) If you sold your car to someone, and THEN tesla disabled features I am not ok with that.
With case #1, I think it is like any used car. People flip cars. They can take a car, remove expensive rims or other options and sell the car without them. People also buy cars and part them out, selling each piece individually. This is ok because the flipper owns the car before selling it and they can do what they want.
Here's a solid example - in 2016 all teslas came with free supercharging for life. In 2017 they changed it to be non transferable. If you buy the car directly from someone tesla won't know but there has been cases where they've found out (warranty repairs for example) where tesla then removed it.
If the seller didn't tell the buyer, or the seller themselves didn't know - who's fault is that?