I gradually figured out what activities, supplements and foods reduced my susceptibility to fatigue and pain and then repetitively used them until I got to a point that I was no longer susceptible to fatigue within the bounds of what I consider a healthy fulfilling life so that I can now convincingly pretend to myself that I don't have cfs. I'm no longer staring into the abyss. I can't run a marathon or do too much mental grunt work but I can just make a modest living, go for a 40 minute zone2 run or 3 hour hike, be a parent, sustain a relationship and keep some friendships going. In the midst of cfs I could only really be a part time parent with support, everything else stopped and I had no certainty that it would ever start again.