Yes, the tendency is for recent connections to be shallower than those formed long ago. But connections also open up at different paces. For some people it took a decade (and multiple phases of life) for us to become close friends, others it took just days.
Consider the pyramid of relationships – at the base are acquaintances, 90% of the people we see each day – at the top are our closest friends and family, those few people that we deeply trust. We can let the people in our lives move fluidly along the vertical axis, and if we are lucky more than just a handful will make it to the top.
I try to not know anyone "in a trivial sense" – the whole point is to be present enough to realize how cool people are.
Consider the pyramid of relationships – at the base are acquaintances, 90% of the people we see each day – at the top are our closest friends and family, those few people that we deeply trust. We can let the people in our lives move fluidly along the vertical axis, and if we are lucky more than just a handful will make it to the top.
I try to not know anyone "in a trivial sense" – the whole point is to be present enough to realize how cool people are.