An idea can have harmless substance, but can become harmful when phrased certain ways. Not just harmful when spoken, but harmful to your mindset. Because the words you're choosing to construct this idea are creating and reinforcing biases that you may not even know about.
The problem with the phrasing I see is that "I'm better because" sets up a comparison by which the peer you've compared yourself to has no way to actually overcome it. It's also a qualitative judgement _on the whole person_.
Let's take an example.
"[I think I'm a better developer because] I'm into software engineering because I like it."
I would instead choose to phrase as:
"I think my development ability progresses quickly because I like it."
With the latter phrasing, you can be correct. You can even prove yourself correct. You can make it a comparison—"I think I'll learn [x] more quickly than this person"—without saying they're a worse person or worse developer, just a _different_ developer.
I guess that thinking in this way will help you value others more. By seeing the ways in which you're different from another developer as a good thing for both of you. By giving people room to succeed and appreciating it even if the way they succeed is different from you. By preventing yourself from thinking "I'm a better developer" when you're having a conversation with a person, so you aren't silently dehumanizing them while pretending not to.
The problem with the phrasing I see is that "I'm better because" sets up a comparison by which the peer you've compared yourself to has no way to actually overcome it. It's also a qualitative judgement _on the whole person_.
Let's take an example.
"[I think I'm a better developer because] I'm into software engineering because I like it."
I would instead choose to phrase as:
"I think my development ability progresses quickly because I like it."
With the latter phrasing, you can be correct. You can even prove yourself correct. You can make it a comparison—"I think I'll learn [x] more quickly than this person"—without saying they're a worse person or worse developer, just a _different_ developer.
I guess that thinking in this way will help you value others more. By seeing the ways in which you're different from another developer as a good thing for both of you. By giving people room to succeed and appreciating it even if the way they succeed is different from you. By preventing yourself from thinking "I'm a better developer" when you're having a conversation with a person, so you aren't silently dehumanizing them while pretending not to.