Personally I strongly prefer F#'s way, and I always enable it manually in C# by setting `<EnableDefaultCompileItems>` to `false`. It's so much easier to debug e.g. compiler deficiencies/bugs when you can just binary chop to find the file that's causing a problem, and the reason you can do this is the linear ordering of explicitly listed files. (In C# I generally just give up and hope that someone else will do it, because it takes so much longer; in F# it's trivial.)

What are you using as your development environment? Personally I don't find the overhead in Vim to be too onerous (`yypf"ci"NewFile.fs`), and even in Rider I routinely edit fsproj files manually. (I even create new projects mostly by hand.)