In reality even having a several "deal breakers" means you would need infinite options to find a match that doesn't have any of the so called deal breakers. Most guys don't get to pick from infinite, or even 10s of options. So you need to settle or stay single.
I get that, but I'm just pretty all or nothing. I wandered through the desert for a decade until I found mine. I was 100% willing to stay single the rest of my life rather than start a family with someone who wasn't good to start a family with. Luckily I didn't have to, I understand that that's not an option for many, but honestly I think most men could do better than they think they can, and I don't think enough men have a clear set of behavioral standards, enough foresight or self respect.