My problem with the spreadsheet is that it has "temporary" and red cells in it. If your private thoughts are that you should leave your girlfriend, then it's a bad idea to stay and a worse idea to compare her to the other options. It's inconsiderate of the limited time she has available for living her life. Commit, leave, or communicate to her that the relationship is temporary.
Plus, a numerical rating from 0 to 10 is a reductionist way of understanding someone. What exactly does a low chill mean? It's probably situational, right? Numerically defining someone turns amorphous changing thoughts into a solid number and locks that perception in place, preventing you from learning more. Maybe you're putting her in situations where she's not chill? Maybe it's situational and you haven't learned what causes it? These complexities hide behind a single simplifying number.
Plus, a numerical rating from 0 to 10 is a reductionist way of understanding someone. What exactly does a low chill mean? It's probably situational, right? Numerically defining someone turns amorphous changing thoughts into a solid number and locks that perception in place, preventing you from learning more. Maybe you're putting her in situations where she's not chill? Maybe it's situational and you haven't learned what causes it? These complexities hide behind a single simplifying number.