My understanding is that there’s a weird trend in the US, where iPhones dominate, to regard “green bubble” users as socially inferior or something of the sort.
Anyone who knows more about this please correct me. This is purely from reading Internet forums.
I used to believe this wouldn't happen to me (I use Android phones without much issue). Then, last week, I was added to a group text for some party planning, and the first few messages in the group chat were "who here has android", "who's the intruder", etc.
Of course it was all jokey and no big deal but I still came away from that situation having learned that all this green bubble malarkey is very much real, and these were all grown adults (like, 30+ with children).
If you have all iMessage users, then you can do things like add more users to the chat, etc.
As soon as one Android user is in the chat, then you can't do that.
The other issue, for me, personally, is that I can respond to my iOS users from my desktop (where I spend most of my time), but I have to actually pick up the phone to communicate with my Android friends.
It's not the end of the world, as my Apple Watch tells me when I get texts from my phone, but it is a bit annoying.
This is exactly right. Green bubble chats require more effort and are less fun.
You can't leave a green bubble chat. You can't send messages from your computer or non-iPhone devices (Apple has message forwarding, but it's unreliable). Pictures look awful, videos look worse. Read receipts don't work. Tapbacks/emoji/stickers/memoji/etc don't work. It's a drag to remember all these limitations.
I grudgingly got an iphone in 2019 for work. I no longer work there but now I'm locked into blue bubble chats with family. I've been trying to use Beeper to solve this it's not reliable enough yet.
(if RCS wasn't such a dog's breakfast, I might make more of an effort. Even when Messages supports RCS, the experience will still suck)
The CTIA recommended allowing up to 5MB for pictures back in 2013. That would handle full-size JPEGs with reasonable compression most DLSRs. What does your carrier support?
The other replies already brought up that WhatsApp is not common in the US, but I'll also add that if your beef with iMessage is the evil corporate overlord, moving to WhatsApp kinda seems like jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire.
I've gotten almost everyone I know to use WhatsApp. Not switch necessarily, but use. There's only a few stragglers left. It's not a hard sell, at least in a big city where you're bound to know a lot of foreigners or people with foreign friends/family, so adoption starts well above zero.
It's not an Android issue, though. It's Apple gatekeeping it. Like for instance if they allowed Android users to use this Beeper app, the experience would be good for all users.
Apple degrade the user experience to spite their own customers. Quite bizarre.
> Like for instance if they allowed Android users to use this Beeper app, the experience would be good for all users
They have not restricted Android users to use third party messaging apps like Beeper. But Beeper isn't using their own infrastructure - they have reverse engineered third party API and are hacking them to work.
Apple's argument against iMessage being covered by DMA is that there are more popular third party products already running on Apple's platform in the EU e.g. WhatsApp.
Then Android users have to download a separate iMessage app for groups involving iPhone users, since they can’t use their default Messages app either and the cycle repeats.
Why can’t everyone in these situations just ask everyone to use one app like WhatsApp? If having good experience was important everyone would be on board.
This is exactly what would happen, if iphones weren't so dominant already. The problem is, many people will not add "a second messaging app" just for one "green bubble" (which as an aside, is a great way to de-humanize "the others", something we humans naturally do. Robert Sapolsky's book "Behave" is phenomenal if you're interested in that). They'll just cut that person out of the group chat.
Also it's not a "good experience" for everyone, not as much as just cutting that green bubble loser out. With no green bubbles, you get to use the default messaging app. With a different app, since you can't change the default on iOS, you have to have at least two apps, and many people balk at that.
I just want to know what Android friend groups are doing to talk to that one iPhone user? I get that iPhones are more popular in the US but in Europe where Android is dominant they (supposedly) all use WhatsApp, which is also not the default messaging app.
Are Americans just too lazy to download another app?
It's not a problem for Android because every messaging app is cross platform. The only one that isn't is iMessage, so by definition this isn't a problem that exists. But also in the US, it's nearly all iPhones, so there just aren't any groups of Android users with one iPhone friend.
More I think they are just really susceptible to marketing efforts by companies like Apple who tell them that it's a bad user experience to have multiple apps, and your own personal user experience is supreme, so people adopt and believe that. And for the people who don't, you can almost guarantee they have at least one "Apple fanatic" in their circle who will preach that gospel to them routinely.
Then there's the social status symbol of "Apple" that has become a big thing in the US. The killer on top is the invasion of the social sphere, partiuclarly with younger people, where you are bullied and isolated for not having an iThingy, and you've got a perfect recipe for Apple.
At some point I think it's got to come back around, but unfortunately that time isn't looking soon as it's trending heavily in the wrong direction right now. It's so bad now that "iPhone" has come to be a generic word for "mobile phones" and "iPad" a generic for "tablet." Just a few days ago I heard someone say something like, "Oh is that an Android iPad? aren't those just cheap knock-offs?" When this is the level of thinking in most of society, it's not hard for a company like Apple to manipulate to serve their ends.
In a group of ten people in the US, you may potentially be asking nine others to install WhatsApp.
Thats ignoring that some people (like myself) have philosophical reasons not to support Meta via WhatsApp. Just like others will not install Signal since it requires them to know your phone number (at least currently).
Then try a couple APAC countries, and people will ask why you aren't using LINE.
This has been going on for decades, ever since we saw AIM/MSN/ICQ and so on divisions country-by-country. In some cases it was simply who localized their app first.
Funny, I don't have that problem with Facebook Messenger, Instagram Chat, WhatsApp, Matrix, etc. I hope Apple can hire some smart folks to help them with these totally-not-self-imposed challenges!
I've enabled it, both iPad and Mac, and found it only works maybe 80% of the time. When it fails, Messages shows the message successfully sent, but the recipient never gets it.
This is why most of the world prefers WhatsApp or Telegram. It can do all of what iMessage does, and a lot more, without forcing you to give one shit about what hardware another person decides to use.
It's real. I remember bracing myself every time I got someone's number off a dating app for the inevitable comment about my "green bubble". These are people in their 20s in NYC. And (for most people), a rant about ecosystem lock-in and being able to do what I want with my hardware etc wouldn't exactly make me come off as more attractive...
Not to invalidate your frustration, but if someone rejected me based on the colour of my chat bubble in a messaging app, that would be decisively unattractive to me.
I have the confidence to feel that now, but dating apps imbue a sense of helplessness in users like my past self, who would get maybe 10-20 matches total, ever, most of whom wouldn't even reply. So perhaps my experience speaks more to the psychological game of dating apps than anything about bubbles and phones.
And, to be fair, they didn't reject me per se, they would make slightly judgmental comments or observations. It just felt like it knocked me down a peg in their eyes and made it all the more difficult to make a real connection.
Anyone who knows more about this please correct me. This is purely from reading Internet forums.