Willpower is a bucket that fill during your sleep, and with time you spend with people you enjoy, and is emptying each awake second, and faster if you have to use it to defend yourself against distractions. You can make the bucket bigger (especially as a child) so you can start the day with more than your peers, but ultimately, resisting too much can be exhausting.
I say that as an ex-obese who can now say he's 'fit'. I wouldn't pose on magazine or on Venice beach, but I'll be quite happy to go shirtless this summer for the first time in more than a decade. I'm constantly hungry, and will be all my life. I fucked up my hormones by eating too much. I don't have any food I can just eat at home. I have to prepare it before. I eat out a lot, and always place myself away from food at gatherings. Each decision I make to avoid eating, I transformed into rituals, so they aren't decisions anymore.
If I had to also stop smoking/drinking/gambling, I wouldn't have succeeded. If I had half my salary, I wouldn't have succeeded.
Obesity in men is quite hard to see/feel at first, especially since I bummed my ankles before putting on weight, so most physical diminutions I put on my accident and not my weight. When my fat showed on my chin, I was already at 34 BMI (I'm at 24 now, I've been around 26-28 for 4 years).
I also was fit as a teen, my upbringing gave me a very good support system and 'community', so my willpower is easy to refill: a good demonstration, a 1st of may, a short night/weekend in a 'ZAD' (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zone_to_Defend) and I'm good to go do any soul-crushing task for hours.
I say that as an ex-obese who can now say he's 'fit'. I wouldn't pose on magazine or on Venice beach, but I'll be quite happy to go shirtless this summer for the first time in more than a decade. I'm constantly hungry, and will be all my life. I fucked up my hormones by eating too much. I don't have any food I can just eat at home. I have to prepare it before. I eat out a lot, and always place myself away from food at gatherings. Each decision I make to avoid eating, I transformed into rituals, so they aren't decisions anymore.
If I had to also stop smoking/drinking/gambling, I wouldn't have succeeded. If I had half my salary, I wouldn't have succeeded.
Obesity in men is quite hard to see/feel at first, especially since I bummed my ankles before putting on weight, so most physical diminutions I put on my accident and not my weight. When my fat showed on my chin, I was already at 34 BMI (I'm at 24 now, I've been around 26-28 for 4 years).
I also was fit as a teen, my upbringing gave me a very good support system and 'community', so my willpower is easy to refill: a good demonstration, a 1st of may, a short night/weekend in a 'ZAD' (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zone_to_Defend) and I'm good to go do any soul-crushing task for hours.