I'm going to address you because you sound like a parent as well and I want to seriously discuss the alternatives.
For three hours in the evening 5 days a week plus ~12 hours on weekends at least half of watching kids is almost as engaging as staring at a wall. Keeping them fed, entertained, alive, and healthy can be fun and engaging like rolling around or story time or singing songs, or if she wants help learning about a toy. But the rest of the time I'm just around while she plays semi-independently to make sure nothing dangerous happens and give her validation when she shows me something she did.
Are we just supposed to sit there and stare at the wall for 20 hours a week? When you try to go phone-free what do you... do?
Highly recommend the recent book How to Raise a Healthy Gamer: End Power Struggles, Break Bad Screen Habits, and Transform Your Relationship with Your Kids [0].
It goes over many of the issues adjacent to social media usage and how to resolve them, starting with how to understand them.
It's like the people who willingly pay $15/mo for World of Warcraft and wonder why the game doesn't get any better, play for one hour and then watch Asmongold for 8 hours (I love Asmon btw).
Look, I basically agree with the goal and am trying myself but: Try watching the Little League World Series on YouTube twice weekly for 4 years and you will have 1% of an understanding of why this is hard.
Its addiction and FOMO, you form connections. Even if you never talk to folk, you have an instant connection if the topic is to arise in face.
However if you previously and stopped watching and the conversation comes up you don't have have the up to date information to connect in to the conversation.
So because your part of the community by whatever feed you feel part of the community. The fear of not being part, subconsciously is what drives you to keep up the habit.
Same goes for all, communities, fandoms, cults; toxic or not.
