I disagree. I have chats where some people engage in good faith and aren't malicious, but nonetheless they are exhausting at times. You can tell them the rules and they will engage in good faith efforts to follow but the letter and spirit of the rules, but the simple truth is some people aren't "cool" or socially graced.
One of my more social group chats has someone who is both autistic and extremely romantically lonely. He is, as the article describes, "the very online person who is familiar with participating in chat at all times". It is a net positive because anyone can get a response at any time, but they can be a bit much at times.
You can either kick those people out, or take a break from them.
The only sure way to avoid degenerate chat rooms is to stick with topics that are less appealing to degenerates. Trying to gatekeep your way out of those situations is a lost cause because now you’ve admitted that you aren’t there to build communities but rather to divide them for selfish reasons.
Most of us figure that out by our mid 30s and I firmly believe that is a main reason you don’t usually see people over a certain age in that kind of environment. Some platforms like Discord or Reddit can have a network bias effect toward this as well.
One of my more social group chats has someone who is both autistic and extremely romantically lonely. He is, as the article describes, "the very online person who is familiar with participating in chat at all times". It is a net positive because anyone can get a response at any time, but they can be a bit much at times.
You can either kick those people out, or take a break from them.