lol
I can't tell if you actually believe that I'm somehow hyper-focused on this because I was able to scrawl out two paragraphs, or if you're just deflecting, but either way it's pretty funny!
I said a thing. You said a thing. I gave you honest and apathetic feedback. You're the one that got defensive about that. You could have left it there; you could have said "oh, I've got nothing formal, I'm just talking about case X, Y, and Z, as brought up in article W."; you could have done anything other than take it hard. Instead you got pissy about me not caring about your unsupported opinion (I make no value judgement on whether it's actually good or bad; just that it's unsupported).
I'm sorry that my immediate response, in informal conversation, is less charitable than you prefer. I don't have any interest in arguing about stuff that has accessible points of well-supported data. I prefer to argue about stuff like art and flavor and preference and anything that doesn't have some reference-able data to make one side or the other impractical to support. If you want to talk movies, or games, or food, I'm happy to volley back and forth about the "better" and "worse" things. But if you want to "argue" that you know of a way for me to do my job "better", I cannot stress this enough: I would LOVE to see your data. Because it will help me do my job better. It's not facetious; it's not smug; it's not a spit in your face. It's an honest offer for you to either provide something that does what you say (at least in your opinion!), or to leave this topic with me. There's nothing tempermental or nuerotically formalized about politely offering a path for the conversation, should it continue. You should try just ignoring the path if you don't want to walk down it.
You got it backwards. There is no way to argue about what music is "better". Or at least no productive way to do that.
When talking about UX, I am expressing an opinion based both on my experience as an engineer and as a user. In this case, I can state that something is better, at least in the sense that it's a more intuitive and an effective pattern.
If judgments like that trigger you - that's ok, I don't have to meet some unexpressed level of data-supported evidence.
> There's nothing tempermental or nuerotically formalized about politely offering a path for the conversation
Re-read your responses and imagine talking to someone in person with this level of nit-picking and animosity.
I said a thing. You said a thing. I gave you honest and apathetic feedback. You're the one that got defensive about that. You could have left it there; you could have said "oh, I've got nothing formal, I'm just talking about case X, Y, and Z, as brought up in article W."; you could have done anything other than take it hard. Instead you got pissy about me not caring about your unsupported opinion (I make no value judgement on whether it's actually good or bad; just that it's unsupported).
I'm sorry that my immediate response, in informal conversation, is less charitable than you prefer. I don't have any interest in arguing about stuff that has accessible points of well-supported data. I prefer to argue about stuff like art and flavor and preference and anything that doesn't have some reference-able data to make one side or the other impractical to support. If you want to talk movies, or games, or food, I'm happy to volley back and forth about the "better" and "worse" things. But if you want to "argue" that you know of a way for me to do my job "better", I cannot stress this enough: I would LOVE to see your data. Because it will help me do my job better. It's not facetious; it's not smug; it's not a spit in your face. It's an honest offer for you to either provide something that does what you say (at least in your opinion!), or to leave this topic with me. There's nothing tempermental or nuerotically formalized about politely offering a path for the conversation, should it continue. You should try just ignoring the path if you don't want to walk down it.