(not a response to your particular comment but to the entire subthread)

I have a feeling that the spectrum of responses to this comment—how varied and how intense many were—is mostly a function of cultural differences.

Ways of relating to such matters vary a lot with national/cultural/religious/family background. Unfortunately, on an internet forum we lack the usual implicit ways of recognizing such differences which help modulate this sort of conversation in real life.

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=23308098

Parentification is never a solution. It’s merely a cruel way to spread misery to another person who doesn’t deserve it.

Many people find it fulfilling to help those in need.

Yes but expecting someone to feel that way is irresponsible and selfish.

Sure: but ideally it is a choice not an obligation.

That would be an incredibly cruel thing to do to a child.

This is awful and cruel to do, no.

> I hate to say this…

Then don’t say it. Do us all a favor.

i think this is a reasonable consideration.