People can get really messed up if they feel like they were taken advantage of sexually. Thats why consent matters. For lots of social interactions that are less intimate, it really isn’t gonna hurt you if you regret them later.
I read your comment just now, but I feel like it’s tangential to my point. I think whether someone agrees to something is very important in a legal/social framework, but not really the thing morally. The more important thing is whether harm is actually done.
Situation A: A man is in a situation where he feels he can't refuse to shake someone's hand, so he does so, feels disgust at the clammy handshake, and then contracts a common infection.
Situation B: A man dates a woman, roofies her, takes advantage of her, but it turns out she's into that and nothing else happens.
From what you're saying, situation A would be much more "immoral" than situation B.
See the fucked up thing is I can’t help but agree. It should be illegal because it tends to cause harm, but that doesn’t mean it causes harm in any particular case, and if it turns out okay I guess I don’t have any good reason to care. There’s the argument “maybe this guy will go forward and keep doing that to other people,” but I don’t disagree in a bubble.
