I have a day job, for which I "telecommute", and sadly that's not working out too well. My day job folks just asked me if I would be willing to relocate, and I've been considering it. It would mean much more work from them, which would mean easier payment of bills, etc. I would be living near the job that pays me, not the other way around.
This here shows that you have huge doubts about the startup, if you are willing to leave it for a less risky decision. It saddens me to see your operation come down to you deciding to leave it for a job. To keep it business running, I would try to get another coder, tell the marketing guy to focus on current products, not future side projects. Take control of the company...basically what everyone else has been saying.
