A good friend and co-worker died recently, worked together for 10 years. Hard worker, lived in Cali and flew out every quarter. We shared being assholes who get shit done by working hard, long, and speaking truth to power.
He died by driving fast, impatiently, killing his wife and unborn child. We shared a love of fast cars and recklessness.
His death has helped me re-evaluate. Selling (trying) my fast car, going part time to travel. Working hard for a company and dieing suddenly seems so ultimately unfulfilled.
That sounds a good idea about re-evaluating your life. I was working at a place where many did unpaid overtime and you could see the strain it was having on them and their families. Company's typically do not thank you for extra work.
Buy a VW Bug - "all show and no go" but you will enjoy tootling from A to B with a noisy engine in what is essentially a glorified basic go-kart.
It always surprises me that people need such an event to rethink their life. I put my life and goals in question around every month, if not every week. Could you tell more about why you didn't do that before? Would be interesting for me to read.
No incident or action happens in a void. A lot of the plans were previously tooling around, but the realization I am putting my wife's life in such significant danger through aggressive driving was made very real by the death of my co-worker and his wife.
The amount of required introspection on a weekly basis to re-value or evaluate the various components into question is exhaustive. As an adult I am forced to make long term choices, like mortgages, marriages, the like.
I would not get far if I was mentally re-evaluating the status of my marriage every week. Or the investments I have considered 'long-term', but these things are all instrumental in making the kinds of radical changes that were/are required to move on from here.
He died by driving fast, impatiently, killing his wife and unborn child. We shared a love of fast cars and recklessness.
His death has helped me re-evaluate. Selling (trying) my fast car, going part time to travel. Working hard for a company and dieing suddenly seems so ultimately unfulfilled.